I am scared to start dating
I’d never been able to get back to the size zero body I’d had before giving birth but I’d also stopped starving myself. To celebrate my divorce, I booked a divorce moon to NYC with a good friend and made plans to meet him. I’ve always had body issues, and spent a good portion of my teens and early 20’s battling an eating disorder.Anxiety sufferers need trust to be earned while dating, as it’s never automatic for us.This can cause problems in new relationships, but it can work if the person you’re dating is good at being reassuring and attentive.Dating apps were new to me, and I soon realized the hell of online dating. No, really, if dating after divorce is scary than it’s easy to stay in the fear rather than take a step into the unknown.Hook-up culture can be utterly terrifying if you’ve only had one or a few partners before getting divorced. It’s okay if those emotions are stronger than any excitement you may feel. You might have to force yourself to go on a few dates because it’s good for you. Fear tells us lies, and it often springs from our insecurities.
I waited to start dating again until my divorce was final, but I put up a dating profile a few months before signing the papers.
Despite the work I’d done in therapy, I still had too many insecurities.
I still hadn’t dealt with or identified my attachment issues.
Even still, this was the first time I’d tried dating without being able to cover over my insecurities by reassuring myself that at least I was the skinniest girl in the bar.
I’d spent years working on my ED in therapy, but old patterns can rear their heads.