Dating someone with an ostomy
No more than five minutes later, I went to the toilet and my nightmare was confirmed. Once I’d been wheeled into the procedure room I told the doctor what had just happened. The last thing I remember was just crying and crying, but feeling more and sleepy.
I woke up, and knew my fate - that I would be having my fifth surgery, and would be getting the bag back yet again.
This was one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me.
Life was great for the following nine months or so.
Third, I never fully recovered and less than four months later ended up in hospital again - quite unwell, and leaking poo from my vagina.
I knew I was unwell and that I may have to have some type of surgery, but not in a million years did I think I would ever have to get the bag back.
I actually took a photo of it and decided to raise money for Crohn’s and Colitis Australia, and plastered the photo all over Facebook and Instagram. I was comfortable in my skin, so guess what happened?
I met a guy, who wasn’t afraid of what I told or showed him; he actually loved me more because of what I had been through, and how I still managed to be so positive and happy about life.
That reason alone wasn’t a good enough reason to stay. I went to the toilet and lost a lot of blood, and knew immediately that something wasn’t right. When I was sitting in bed waiting for my flexi sigmoidoscopy, my doctor asked me if any poo was leaking from my vagina, and I very proudly said no.Then one afternoon, a bunch of doctors came to my bed, pulled the curtain around me and said, My second stoma was by far the worst.Even though I knew what I was in for and that it wouldn’t be so bad, and was looking forward to feeling good again, I still felt devastated. I was sick for three years with Ulcerative Colitis and would always joke that the next step would be a bag. But when a surgeon walked up to my hospital bed and said, , leaving me in tears, my new reality began.When I used to say that I could end up with a bag, I didn’t really understand what it meant because like I said, I never really thought it would happen to me.