Dating a guy with no friends
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"I was serious when I said I'm just looking for friends on my profile.
You're so nice, and I don't want to lead you on in any way.
With no other criteria, I swiped right on guys who I found attractive and could write a literate sentence in their About Me, the same method I used when trying to date.
Going in, I thought the experiment was limited: Because these were dating apps, I couldn't access the pool of straight girls, those least likely to see me as a romantic target.
But I ended up hating them for dating because of their "all or nothing" protocol.
I was familiar with the apps beforehand: I used them for a month in summer 2013 when they were new and the It Thing among my friends, the source of all our war stories.
Turns out the apps didn't create that restriction though: we did.
On Tinder particularly, "The purpose was never just for dating, it was for social discovery in general," Rosette Pambakian, vice president of communications for the app, told me.
It wasn't, however, easy to find a great friend match.
With photo-heavy, information light profiles, the apps had me frustrated within five minutes.